You can do everything else in all the other articles but if
you don’t do the following to build relationships within your
family, whatever else you do won’t matter.
Have you ever noticed that when one person gives you a
suggestion or says something, you get really upset or
irritated? And when someone else says the exact same
thing it doesn’t bother you at all? The difference is
probably the quality of your relationship with that person.
In Seven Habits of Highly Effective Families, Covey talks
about building a relationship with your child and family by
adding emotional deposits to his bank account. There will
be times when a mother or father make poor decisions
and make withdrawals, but it won’t be as hurtful to the
relationship/ emotional bank if there are enough positive
Examples of Deposits ( the first three deposits are from
- Say your sorry.
- Be loyal to those not present.
- Follow through on your promises.
- Listen to your child.
- Empathize with your child’s frustrations.
- Play with your child on their terms.For example, if they want to jump off the bed into pillows, do it
- with them.
- Model honesty, integrity, humility.
Making these types of deposits will enhance the
relationship with your child and make everything else
related to parenting much easier.